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Make Yourself a Priority

Jul 30, 2019
1 min

Make Yourself a Priority

Its a difficult choice to make for most of us as fundamentally we all want to be loved and accepted thus we are thriving to accomplish positive relationship, to connect with other human beings and what is the best possible way? To be there for them, to be always available and always say YES to their requests and demands. Have you considered that by saying YES to everyone else demands you are actually No to your needs?! This process it builds up within our inner self a conflic

The Love Language of Touch

Jun 12, 2019
2 min

The Love Language of Touch

Human beings thrive on and need physical touch to connect with each other, within a cultural aspect, an intimate approach, a business acknowledgement. Different type of physical contact from a hand shake to a full embrace or several pecks on the cheek are types of acknowledgement that vary across the globe, the meaning of it and the symbolism behind it. In times of crisis we need to feel loved, almost instinctively we hug one another, the physical touch is a powerful communic

New Era Relationships

May 23, 2019
2 min

New Era Relationships

Another well discussed topic nowadays across social media and the world of psychology is: What Men and women want from a relationship? The million dollars question! The advent of the internet and its ready approach to meeting your prospective partner it has become a very popular hit (no pun intended!) with men and women across the globe of any age, gender and creed, however, the common denominator here is the personal self fulfilment, whichever in a sexual manner or with the

The Avoidant Partner

Apr 25, 2019
2 min

The Avoidant Partner

By first reading this heading it may suggest how our partners avoid taking the bins out - which is a pretty recurrent household grumble, however in this case is about the Avoidant Attachment style present in those individuals that show an incapacity in maintaining close relationships, and for that matter to show their emotions. What is it an Avoidant style? John Bowlby the British psychiatrist and psychoanalyst built an extensive research on child development, the child respo

What about Self Worth?

Oct 3, 2018
2 min

What about Self Worth?

Every so often we talk about ourselves, our achievements and progresses with a tone of neglect, not really addressing that particular goal or self development with a glowing self recognition. But so we should! Let's take a look at where we are now: work, family, relationship, home, friends, connections, all of those elements in you life have been achieved by the sheer effort and commitment yourself have invested in. Us human beings are genetically programmed to perform a vari

The State of Affairs

Aug 14, 2018
3 min

The State of Affairs

Human nature and its rules, expectations, and morals templates...its cheating on your partner or spouse an inhuman behavior after all? Our society is strongly stating that is NOT! But let us take a closer look to this harrowing, and yet predominant hot of the press reality. Our prehistoric ancestors soon discovered sex with or without love, however contemporary cultures share a link between Love and Sex. Let us start from the very beginning such as at the time of our birth wh

What is Stress?

May 23, 2018
1 min

What is Stress?

Stress is the response to environmental triggers. Have you ever found yourself feeling under siege in your work place, or going through a highly demanding personal commitment such as life changing, a divorce, the birth of a new baby, a sudden death. When the pressure reaches its peak is when the body feels the brunt of the oncoming stress. Anxiety The consequence of stress is Anxiety, that overwhelming feeling of trepidation. At first it feels like butterflies in the stomach

The Tools for Recovery

May 20, 2018
2 min

The Tools for Recovery

The impact of Abuse leaves a stream of post traumatic effects, our brain is flooded by stress hormones, this cause the person to be on the alert mode at all times. Feeling ashamed Following the shame that abuse brings with it, the survivor lack of self care skills, of healthy practices, experience unhealthy work and irregular sleep patterns, this can cause an array of issues in their lives. Often I am asked How do I Find a Way Out of My Own Feelings? What Do I Do About This S

Relationship "talks"

Oct 1, 2017
1 min

Relationship "talks"

Relationship issues is a common denominator in marriage work, couples have many different styles of "communication". Some avoid conflicts, some argue a lot, some behave passive aggressively and some are able talk about it without raising their voice at each other, to find a compromise. Those denominators usually present in couple arguments are: Criticism: staging the problem of the other partner's flaws. Defensiveness: it works as the instinctive reaction to criticism. Contem

Introduction to a Narcissistic Behavior

Jul 30, 2017
1 min

Introduction to a Narcissistic Behavior

Self absorption, ego centered image and overly vain is a trend of nowadays society, however, an individual displaying a narcissistic behavior they lack in compassion, being self reflective and hold self accountability. The top end of the spectrum shows a fine ability to master manipulation, identifying the faults of others and even better at passively aggressively commenting on them. Often the other person achievements bear no importance as the narcissist did it first, better

Attachment Relationships

Mar 16, 2016
1 min

Attachment Relationships

Attachment relationships are psychologically internalized, the quality of a child’s social experiences becomes a mental property of that child. Bowlby said on human personality: “Is perhaps the most complex system here on hearth. To describe the principles the components of its construction, to understand and predict the ways in which it works, and above all, to map the multitude of intricate pathways along which any one person may develop, these are all the tasks for the fut