Since I became a therapist, I have had clients expected me to tell them "What to do", "what to think" if I had the "right answer". As a therapist, I’m trained to understand people and help them sort out what they want to do, but I can’t make their life choices for them. I’m not a real-estate specialist, career counselor or, most important, I don't have a magic wand. So, you ask your therapist: Should I do this? Should I do that? Since I am the therapist I am the one who knows

When you are taking up a colleague workload, when you are responding to everyone else needs, when you keep smiling and validate everyone else demands...its not going to end up well! How about your own needs? There is no need to appease to confirm to yourself that you are meeting their standards, by appealing to their attention it won't solve that lingering sense of low self-worth....it will just keep you pushing you into that spiralling of negative thinking, self-criticisms a

Several reasons for feeling burnt out usually are in relation to work load and family life, the addition of a newborn, the bereaving of a loved one, loss of employment where there is prolonged stress, it leads to burnout. Sometimes individuals may think the feeling of stress is due to a difficult relationship or any other pressures in life. An emotional burnt out occurs when the roots of the problems are stemming from the dynamics within a dysfunctional family where the indiv

I talk about attachment styles often in my blogs, attachment being the initial rapport we establish as infants with our main career, those very roots that will lay the path of our future personal relations, behaviours, choices and how we relate to others. During the first two years, how the parents or caregivers respond to their infants, particularly during times of distress, establishes the types of patterns of attachment their children form. These patterns will go on to gui

Traumatic experience such as loss, bereavement, abuse, existential trauma, whereby a life threatening experience beyond our control, such as an operation, violent attack or accident has caused us physical pain and suffering. When we experience bonding trauma, whereby we were unable to develop a secure attachment to our caregivers. Parental trauma is passed and felt through the generations, also known as intergenerational trauma. In order to protect ourselves from that kind of

The wedding vows on that special day, the flowers, the guests, the champagne flowing, the kids running, the cake cutting, and those photos taken to immortalise a special moment THE day when your life will change for better and for worse...but are you ready for it?! You have now spent several years together you shared the holidays, she met your family, he met your friends, you have finally moved together! Started to arrange your toothbrushes in the same holder on the sink ledg