The way you feel about your relationship is they key to self esteem, it also estimate just how what is going on. When you are undergoing difficulties, you will find that you feel different, one may feel pessimist, or negative, resentful or threatened. Most couples are drawn to each other because, at first, they meet each other' s needs, a few years down the line most couples hit problems once they have been together for a substantial period of time, usually years and kids inc

Loneliness has recently reached an almost epidemic level in our society, young people feel increasingly lonely nowadays despite the those social networking tools available for an immediate contact / communication approach, but....will it be just that?! The advent of the internet, social platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter to name a few have shaped the way we communicate with one another, at which immediacy and choice of interaction, however, despite the beauty of suc

It's not often that I as a therapist do disclose my inner self to my clients, although I believe in a beneficial aspect of self-disclosure in the therapy room, I do hold tight on those ethical and professional boundaries of mine, however, there have been times when I just let it go...! I have found myself in session charged highly by an emotional whirlpool, I have been able to contain, to protect and to hold the client while in their aspect of their journey, but at times I fo

The wedding vows on that special day, the flowers, the guests, the champagne flowing, the kids running, the cake cutting, and those photos taken to immortalise a special moment THE day when your life will change for better and for worse...but are you ready for it?! You have now spent several years together you shared the holidays, she met your family, he met your friends, you have finally moved together! Started to arrange your toothbrushes in the same holder on the sink ledg

I have often been asked from my clients this question: " What do we do in therapy? How do we proceed from here?" The foundation of therapy is Trust, a mutual rapport between the client and the counsellor necessary for the process to take place and progress towards the desired outcomes and aims of the client. What do we do in therapy is to observe and reflect, while the client develops and evaluate a new authenticity. The client tolerates disappointments and failures with the

Human nature and its rules, expectations, and morals templates...its cheating on your partner or spouse an inhuman behavior? Our society is strongly stating that is NOT! But let us take a closer look to this harrowing, and yet predominant hot of the press reality. Our prehistoric ancestors soon discovered sex with or without love, however contemporary cultures share a link between Love and Sex. Let us start from the very beginning such as at the time of our birth when we must

Anger: that engulfing sensation raising from your stomach all the way up to your chest, it feels like a bubbling hot lava reaching upwards to the volcano crate only to be ending into a primal scream, a torrent of words sometimes hurtful, colorfully depicted with sarcasm, followed by an aggressive body language. Often Anger makes your eyes swelling with tears rolling down heavily on your cheeks, and the more you trying to wipe them away the more those rivulets of droplets keep

We are told that parenting is not an easy job. The unconditional love we feel for our children is ingrained in our own beings and yet, those children grown within a toxic and dysfunctional environment learn almost immediately in their early years of development how to fend for themselves, to walk on eggshells, they become people pleasers, dismiss their own feelings, hardly meet their own needs. Children of Narcissistic mothers experience their mother's lack of empathy, will d

Remember that book? it made its breakthrough several years ago with this eye catching title and a compelling reading, it has indeed introduced its readers to the insightful new world of how to understand women and men differences! We are indeed vastly different in many aspects not only the obvious physical appearance, but notoriously emotionally and psychologically. Neuroscience studies into the developmental stages of the human brain is fascinating, it offers us the understa

The definition of counselling is offered in terms of " the opportunity to talk to a trained Counsellor about your stress, anxiety or depression". In my experience as a trained Counsellor with my clients is the fundamental trust the client needs to establish with their therapist. The relationship is my client and their issues, whichever this is an individual counselling or couple therapy. I work with the client presenting issue, I establish a rapport and contract my client wit

What is trust? How can we trust someone? Can we allow someone new in our life? Those questions spinning around in our mind, touching base with our feelings while questioning our needs as individuals. Trust To give permission to someone else to step into our existence, to share our thoughts, emotions, to communicate our opinions and feelings while expecting them to reciprocate with the same if not similar empathy and agreement, compassion and understanding. Intimacy Another st

We often found ourselves in a power struggle with our partners, close relatives, or peers. Conversations can easily turn into heated discussions leading to rows, whereby words become hurtful, judgmental, oppressive, critical, and all over harsh and unkind. Changing the tide of communication is where the interlocutor and the speaker are both meeting on a ground of mutual understanding, where compassion and empathy allows to build a mutual trust, our feelings being heard, our e

Unregulated emotions showing as somatic effects, poor relationship and unexpressed emotions makes us ill! Memories are stored in our body and in our brain; implicit memories are stored in our unconscious where the explicit memories are kept in the Hippocampus but there is not recollection of feelings. Clients experiencing a trauma intent to maintain those implicit memories that cause “triggers” and flashbacks leading to somatic responses in the body. By keeping the client in

Attachment relationships are psychologically internalized, the quality of a child’s social experiences becomes a mental property of that child. Bowlby said on human personality: “Is perhaps the most complex system here on hearth. To describe the principles the components of its construction, to understand and predict the ways in which it works, and above all, to map the multitude of intricate pathways along which any one person may develop, these are all the tasks for the fut