An intimate relationship potentially offers the basis for safety and containment for both partners, but when evokes feelings too powerful to be processed or toxic to be contained it becomes a painful paradox for those who are living these dynamics, this effect any insecure attached partners, particularly for those avoidant individuals who they are often in denial that there is a problem that needs to be addressed, this reflect on any couples who aspire monogamy from same sex

Many theories and studies view early years attachment a major factor in the development of the child throughout their early years, across their pubity into adulthood. Various external factors in a person's life as well as unique internal factors can and do reinforce early attachment patterns or facilitate change, towards attachment stability, or not. To this adding neurobiological differences may also influence attachment patterns change in ways yet to be discovered. In a ma

We’re around each other plenty more hours but together is a different story. Being in the same house does not necessarily constitute together, he key word here is together, which isn’t just proximity; it’s presence and focus. We are forced into the intimacy, not just with spouses, but also with kids or whoever else is in the home, the first step in making this situation work is to talk about it. By keeping your concerns as part of a bigger conversation, you're more likely to

According to attachment theory, infant care - giver attachment provides the f foundations for future bonding and attachment relationships with others. These early attachment experiences lay the path how individuals are influenced by them and how they respond to their world and how they create an inner core model, a guide to self development including self esteem , identity, and self efficacy. Childhood attachment security is associated with caregivers responsiveness and con

Traumatic experience such as loss, bereavement, abuse, existential trauma, whereby a life threatening experience beyond our control, such as an operation, violent attack or accident has caused us physical pain and suffering. When we experience bonding trauma, whereby we were unable to develop a secure attachment to our caregivers. Parental trauma is passed and felt through the generations, also known as intergenerational trauma. In order to protect ourselves from that kind of

The wedding vows on that special day, the flowers, the guests, the champagne flowing, the kids running, the cake cutting, and those photos taken to immortalise a special moment THE day when your life will change for better and for worse...but are you ready for it?! You have now spent several years together you shared the holidays, she met your family, he met your friends, you have finally moved together! Started to arrange your toothbrushes in the same holder on the sink ledg

Intimacy and Vulnerability

In my practice I work with many stages of infidelity with couples, when both decide to work on the recovery of their relationship usually on the aftermath of the betrayal occurred. When a partner strays out of the relationship or marriage it leaves a trail of shuttered emotions, trauma, broken trust, blame, critical comments, state of anxiety, deep anger, and highly charged feelings. To rebuild the foundations of their relationship is adding bricks to a wall, a wall of distru

Love is in the air! Flowers sales are surging, those boxes of chocolate are flying off the shelves it makes you think if the nation is suddenly in a state to of sugar crave! There is only one explanation... is St. Valentine Day! For those in a relationship this is the day when lovers cherish each other by exchanging gifts, sitting candle lights dinners, and any kind of romantic extravaganza... or not. For those who are not in a relationship at present this day may feel a bit

Human nature and its rules, expectations, and morals templates...its cheating on your partner or spouse an inhuman behavior? Our society is strongly stating that is NOT! But let us take a closer look to this harrowing, and yet predominant hot of the press reality. Our prehistoric ancestors soon discovered sex with or without love, however contemporary cultures share a link between Love and Sex. Let us start from the very beginning such as at the time of our birth when we must

What love means? The idealized romantic scenario of the perfect marriage is fundamentally what we all are aiming for, that kind of relationship where both partners communicate well, never argue, and rarely fight it doesn't equate to how difficult can become when those struggles crop up, and how to cope with those. A difference in cultural backgrounds may also cause difficulties when you trying to run your rapport on a different direction from your partner view. You want a rel

What is trust? How can we trust someone? Can we allow someone new in our life? Those questions spinning around in our mind, touching base with our feelings while questioning our needs as individuals. Trust To give permission to someone else to step into our existence, to share our thoughts, emotions, to communicate our opinions and feelings while expecting them to reciprocate with the same if not similar empathy and agreement, compassion and understanding. Intimacy Another st

It takes courage to enter a journey into couple counselling as it is an admission to a lurking "trouble in paradise". When both partners are attending couple therapy is important to establish the readiness of everyone, therapy is most successful when both partners investing in the process, the challenge arise when the readiness and willingness to invest in the future relationship is required. Successful couple counselling requires a considerable amount of effort from the the

Human relationship is based on utility, satisfactions, equalization between partners; some people enter a relationship for an expected reward. In order to satisfy a harmonious relationship both individuals have to be committed in reaching the same result by efforts and rewards being agreed on a fair system. Some partners giving up personal potential may be a necessary and acceptable compromise in order to negotiate a permanent satisfactory relationship; part of this process i

Attachment relationships are psychologically internalized, the quality of a child’s social experiences becomes a mental property of that child. Bowlby said on human personality: “Is perhaps the most complex system here on hearth. To describe the principles the components of its construction, to understand and predict the ways in which it works, and above all, to map the multitude of intricate pathways along which any one person may develop, these are all the tasks for the fut