Child Sexual Abuse
Updated: Mar 5, 2019
Children in dysfunctional families the child learns how to repress their feelings - anger, love, dissatisfaction. Sexual abuse causes many real damages to the individual, to their brain, personality and their body. There is no family that consciously decide to do harm to its members, however there is a strong attraction to dwell on the past despite its negativity. Children brought up within such an environment learn the rule of silence; dysfunctional families display a strings of rigid rules, one of them is the lack of communication; children are forced to live by those rules as a matter of emotional and sometimes physical survival. There are additional challenges too such as overcoming behavioral learnt patterns. I
n violent families, threats of death are common, as result many survivors had near - death experiences. When an individual decide to approach a therapist is usually due to seek help in regaining positivism in their emotional patterns which they have become too painful for them to bear on their own. This period is defined as limbo and chaos; it is usually encountered as the period of disintegration or disorientation experienced by the client in crossing the bridge from old to new. Recovery is no a quick fix, neither is a swift process. When trauma is repeated, the only way of dealing with it is to distance oneself from what is happening, pretending that the abuse or trauma is happening to someone else. This feeling of depersonalisation is also common in adults survivors. Traumatic memories are less likely to be remembered, as researches has shown, the stress response is formed within a part of our brain, called the Hippocampus, where memory storage goes offline during highly endured traumatic experiences.
Monika Bassani offers counselling in West Norwood South East London.