Is Your Relationship Abusive?
Updated: Mar 5, 2019
Various definitions of an abusive relationship also called domestic violence are widely available to us on the internet, however, when you find yourself sharing a relationship with the person you thought he / she was going to be your soulmate only to realize their behavior is controlling, coercive, when they stopping you from seeing your friends and family, when they embarrass you while attending a social event, when their mood suddenly changes from being lovely, attentive, and kind to be spiteful, aggressive, diminishing.
Have you ever felt starting to walk on eggshells as not to tip over the balance, to avoid them make them angry? are you blamed for their behavior you asked for it, you made me do it! How about when started to control your own finances, what you wish to wear, who to see, where to go, and even what you are supposed to be thinking!
Those are a range of acts that an abuser inflicts to their own partner, spouse, daughter or son to make that person feeling submissive, controlled, to make them feel isolate, worthless and self doubtful. Is called Domestic Violence.
Acts of threats, abuse, intimidation, assault, stalking, humiliation, interpersonal violence, financial control, couple conflict, coercive control also includes FGM and forced marriages. These acts of violence are there to deprive the victim from their own personal abilities, to take them hostage and imprisoned in a world of conflictual reality, fear and confusion. Abuse also turns into sexual assault, rape, sexual exploitation.
If you find yourself in this type of abusive relationship don't feel embarassed to talk to people, reach out ask for help, do not feel afraid of not being taken seriously, I believe you. You are not on your own.
Monika Bassani Counselling in West Norwood South East London.