• Monika Bassani

Emotional Neglect in Early Childhood up to Teenager Years

Updated: Apr 15

Emotionally neglectful families leave a trail of neurological and psychosomatic reactions in the body of the developing child, these are often resurging in adulthood under medicalised terms of Anxiety, Depression and Behavioural Disorders are an inflammation of the brain, those neurons being effected by "pruning" an attack of its own cells limiting the function of synapses; often in severe case of adverse childhood where not only emotional abuse but sexual and physical prevent the brain form its natural development, in cases it shrinks.

When your parents sufficiently neglect your emotions and emotional needs, they do not notice what you are feeling, ask about your feelings, connect with you on an emotional level, or validate your feelings enough. The one failure of the emotionally neglectful family is emotional. There may be enough hugs. There may be enough money. There may be enough food and clothing. But this family does not manage to provide enough emotional awareness, validation, compassion, or emotional care to the children.

Researchers have established a link between a difficult / abusive and or emotionally neglectful childhood and the development of organic disease and illnesses, such as cancer, obesity, auto immune disease, chronic bowel syndrome to name a few. Exposing the child to unpredictable stress cause the body to churn out inflammatory stress hormones - cortisol and adrenaline - that ignite a state of physical and neural - inflammation.

Parallel to this moderate stress may be the grist for resiliency when it's not deeply personal, chronic and or perpetrated by someone we love. Recently studies carried out at the Harvard University on the " toxic stress response - the impact of childhood hardship on brain development and on the development of diseases later in life" everything that infiltrate the body influences the brain development, the cardiovascular system, and the metabolic system.

The outcomes here is not to eliminate stress completely, in childhood to be able to dela with normative stress is part of healthy development, children learn how to seek out resourceful strategies, self sooth, recover and build the biological capacities for resistance. Toxic stress is what to look out for.

You cannot fix your family, and you do not need to try. But you can start changing yourself.

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