Letter to My Client
Dear fellow being,
As your therapist you have trusted me in the task to accompany you in your journey, a truly humble privilege. Therapy itself is often shrouded in mystery or carries a stigma, but I noticed how how stronger and more courageous you all have become, decided to take the step forward to reach out for support, celebrate yourself.
As your therapist I want you to know a few things that often I don't have the time to explain, here it goes:
I am human too. I do make mistakes and I do not have perfect life. It i
s normal to assume that your therapist never faults, they seem to have all the answers in therapy, so why wouldn’t they have them in life? Yes I am well-trained. As your therapist, I have interpersonal skills, insights into the human condition, skills to manage distress, and yet I am not perfect. Sometimes I have a hard time taking my own advice! Sometimes I say the wrong thing, and I too get myself into unpleasant situations and need to claw my way out — just like you.
I rely on you. Often I make recommendations, often I rely on you. I am the experts in our respective fields, but you are the expert on you. I rely on you to set your goals, to be honest with us, and to tell me about your experience. I also rely on you to attend your therapy with an open mindset willing to engage with me, your therapist and do the work - even when it feels terrifying.
Sometimes I try to do too much. I am in this profession because I care, a lot. I take pride to help others, admittedly sometimes I try too hard to “fix" things.
I understand your suffering. I too have had personal experiences with suffering - is part of the human condition. Although I may or may not disclose my own experiences, as therapist I went into this profession for a reason. I of course can never know your exact experience, but I want you to know that I feel empathy and compassion, I care about your suffering and I can sit with you in your time of need.
At last. It is important to understand that your therapist is a human being who cares for you and wants you to succeed, in whatever form that takes. I feel most privilege to work alongside fellow humans, for this I want to Thank You for opening yourselves up to me, and for allowing me to hold space for you to grow, to develop and increase your own self - internal motivation.
Monika Bassani Counselling | Counselling in West Norwood,
SE27, London | Counselling for anxiety, depression, trauma,
bereavement and more
Mob: 07506 790316 | firstname.lastname@example.org | www.monikabassanicounselling.com